Hubby received this text from a random number.


Clearly, he is not Anita. But he is a nice, pleasant person, so he responded, as he should.

And that was that. Until the next morning.

At this point, Hubby said, “Okay, I’m out,” and didn’t respond. His thought was this was a scam. I don’t agree. I think this chic just wanted to make a new friend and had no idea if Hubby was a man or woman. If it had been me, since I’m a woman, and am clearly okay with virtual friendships, (Hi, Blog Buddies!) I would’ve totally chatted this woman up.
“What kind of wine is that? Are you at a vineyard? Nice nails. Are they lacquer?” (I had to look that up. I know nothing about nails but am willing to learn.)
But, of course, Hubby, not so much, thankfully.
So what do you guys think? Would you have chatted with Lonely Heart Lily? Made a friendship that was sure to be brief, or would your money be on text pals (modern day pen pals) for life?
Or do you think it was just a scam?
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In other news, I’m now 5.5 weeks on crutches. An x-ray proved no broken bones, but there’s gotta be ligament damage: a partial tear or two. The next step is an MRI.
But then I got a phone call.
“Your insurance can’t justify an MRI for a hurt foot.”
A “hurt foot”?! Seriously?
I broke this news to Sensei. In typical fashion, he responded:

Sensei has no idea I’ve made his texts a regular blog feature. I dare not tell him. Those of you who’ve been here long enough may remember what a monster I created of the Chex Mix Guy. Once I told him I’d been blogging about him, he demanded a post after every store visit.
Sensei might be even worse.
I still drive my girls to Taekwondo and sit in the back to watch them practice, including breaking boards. I’m sad I’m missing out, but am pleased to report, in addition to using one’s foot to do the break, an elbow is also an option. That’s the one I’ll use when I get back in there.
Eventually.
Sigh.
And my doctor is appealing the insurance decision.
Possibly a scam. Possibly just a bad night at the wine bar.
I’ll write an appeal for your MRI. How about, “Seriously, this woman does two different kinds of marshal arts and is very close to getting her black belt(s). You’d better approve this or I’ll give her your office address so she can discuss with you in person. Her kids can break boards, she could do a lot more damage than that …”
and tell Sensei he’ll also need a bottle of whisky – no one should do that kind of surgery sober …
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Oh my goodness! This just got better and better! I was smiling broadly all the way through “she could do a lot more damage…” but then bottle of whisky, LOL, and finally, that ending!!!
Oh, Andrew. What would I do without you?
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I’m just trying to make this a better planet. 😉
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You certainly make my world a better place.
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Oh, that’s a great appeal! I like it!
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Andrew has a way with words. 🙂
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He sure does!
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Looks like a scam to me.
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You really think so? I’m hoping someone will see this and say the same thing happened to them. So curious.
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It would have been okay left the day before. Not another contact the next day. Like did the person get drunk last night and just not fail to follow-up? Doubtful.
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Huh. Possible. I had hoped it was more like, “Gee, that person I texted with last night sure was nice. I wonder if we could be friends.” But I am, admittedly, naive.
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🙄
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*i* would have chatter her up. Tim would not have…and knowing based on the hand that the texter was a woman, I would not have wanted him to!
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My feelings exactly. Thanks for commenting, AT! 🙂 ❤
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First, I hate insurance. I’m sorry for the pause in your training.
Second, scam scam scam. Team Husband!!!!
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That’s three votes for scam. I am, admittedly, naive and always wish and hope for the best in people. Still, that makes me sad.
And thanks for the first part.
🙂
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You’re welcome. And I’m with you on ‘wanting’ to hope for the best. But job/career have taught me to not let hope blindly look over scams! 😂
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Understood.
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No, never would have responded. I would have blocked her/him (or whatever her/his pronouns are)! I hate getting texts from anyone but family!
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Once someone texted me about exchanging info after having just had a car accident with me. Boy, did I feel bad when I had to break it to her that she was given the wrong number. She laughed, though, realized she’d typed it in wrong and thanked me sincerely for letting her know I wasn’t the correct person. I hoped that I had brightened her day a bit by wishing her luck. SHE wasn’t a scammer. I don’t get scammers. Just such a terrible thing to do.
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Hi. MRI or not, I hope you’ll heal soon.
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Thank you.
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Being the suspicious person I am, I would say it’s a scam. I ignore any texts from people or numbers I don’t recognize and immediately block the number. I’m a meanie! 🙂 I hope you gets things straightened out with the insurance company. I had my own insurance bomb dropped on Friday.
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Oh no, Jill. What happened? Is everything okay? Insurance is the worst. I mean, we can’t live without it, but sometimes they make us!
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I’m so sorry that we are becoming more and more suspicious of each other. I the early days of cell phones, I would get a message (call or txt) now and then that was clearly for someone else. I always returned the call or text to let them know they had the wrong number. Now, my mind goes immediately to “scam.” That makes me sad.
Good luck getting everything worked out with your insurance (speaking of scams…).
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That makes me sad too.
Insurance–speaking of scams. Haha! Thanks, Janis. It I had a connection in my two stories here without even realizing it. 🙂
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Sorry to hear about the crutches. Not knowing is one of the downsides of blog breaks. In terms of the opening conversation, normally I’m one to continue the conversation …. but nowadays, I remain cautious. Hoping your healing is progressing!
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Thanks, Frank! Sad we live in a world where we have to be so cautious of strangers.
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Agree
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I’m with hubby on this. How did you attract someone so intelligent? Anything to do with wine? And I love your sensei. So funny! He deserves Chex Mix. PS: Love Andrew’s letter to insurance company.
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Now I’m curious if Sensei likes Chex Mix, though I don’t know why it would matter. If I could get Sensei and CMG to meet… THAT would be something.
Yes, Andrew is a marvel. 🙂
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I vote to chat with the person until they reveal themselves as scammer…then, watch a James Veitch video for reference and go to town (not really, but I really want to see someone else do it)!!!
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Oh, yeah! I remember seeing some videos of that guy. 😛 Too late, sadly. This was a while ago now. I wish we had thought to try to call this scammer out, if indeed she was one.
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I don’t think it was a scam, just someone lonely. I mean, if someone was that nice to me after making a mistake like that, I would’ve wanted to be friends with them. I hope you recover quickly!
btw I had to change my name because my boyfriend gave it to me and…on sunday he broke up with me. It was not a good break up at all. The other day we even had a screaming match with each other outside the dojo that almost led to punching but I didn’t want to start that because like…he’s a football player and was a base in cheerleading for most of his life? VERY strong. Me? not so much. He would’ve beat the hell out of me haha. Anyways yeah his dad made him block me and all that. Now I am single hehe. I need to change my pfp too…he made that for me heh.
Hope your week has been better 😜
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You and I think alike. I thought someone just wanted to make a new friend, but you and I are in the minority. Everyone else is saying scammer. So sad. Not that I wanted this “Lily” to be lonely, but I’d rather that than a jerk scammer.
Also, yiiiiikes. Screaming match? Almost came to blows? Eesh. I’m SO sorry. Sounds like it’s a good thing you got out of that relationship, and for that I’m grateful. Must be awkward being at the same dojo, though.
Nothing wrong with being single. I didn’t seriously date until I met my husband, and that wasn’t until after college. I avoided a lot of pain and heartache by not wasting time with the wrong people. You’re better off without this person!
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yes it is SO awkward at the dojo. We were friends at first then it switched. Good on you for avoiding the heartache. I didn’t lol. Also honestly my ex is better off without ME. He already has a new bf. I wasn’t really good at a relationship. I was a bit…manipulative. Yeah, just stuff to work on.
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It’s awesome that you’re self-aware. That’s huge. Keep in mind that the human brain doesn’t finish forming until around 25. You’ll still be learning and growing and figuring things out for a while. And then, of course, the lessons continue after 25, but it gets a little easier. 🙂
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I wonder how old you think I am lolll
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I assumed you were in high school. No?
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last year of high school 😊
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Okay. So I was pretty much right. 🙂
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Sorry to hear that you’re still on crutches. It must be tough for you to miss so many of your favorite classes. As for Lily, I think it’s some kind of scam.
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Thanks, Rosaliene. It is a huge bummer for me to be missing classes and getting behind. And I think you’re right about the scam. That does seem to be majority vote!
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Your husband’s thumbs-up should’ve been the last text in either direction, Betsy. A response like “What’s your name?” comes off weird, and a little naive. Seems to me a scammer would take a different tact (but maybe that’s what makes this one effective?) Nope, I’m sticking with naive and lonely. Would love to know where the view is, though. Napa winery maybe?
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I wonder where the view is too! I wish this had been on my phone. Even if this was a scammer, I would’ve talked until she/he revealed himself to be one just to settle my curiosity. Alas, it’s too late. The text has been deleted.
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Hope you get things work out with insurance and heal soon. For Lily, it is possible scam. I won’t respond to strangers like this.
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I hope to get things worked out soon, too. Thanks, June. We’ll never know for sure if this person was a scammer.
The text has been deleted.
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Scam.
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That seems to be the prevailing vote! Thanks, LA. 🙂
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Oh, I totally would have chatted her up. I’ve done that a few times with wrong number texts, and they’ve never been scams. I probably would have asked her to bring over the bottle! Don’t worry, we’d share with Tara, of course.
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This doesn’t surprise me one bit. I really wish I had gotten to chat her up and find out for sure what the deal was. The curiosity is killer.
So tell me. When I anonymously commented on your blog, did you even have to think about it?
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Not even for a second. I could tell it was you right away!
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Honored. My perpetual snark must have come through loud and clear. 🙂
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You’ve got it down to a science!
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Ah, the strange things I take as a compliment.
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Haha!
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It may not have been a scam, but in this day and time, I would not take the chance. Pray you get the insurance company to change their position. When you go back, you can always use your elbow – and break something in your arm. 😉
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Haha. Oh, Barb. Last thing I need would be to break something in my arm, but that would be so me, wouldn’t it? Ha.
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An interesting text thread. I would have probably ignored it. Too little context to have substantive conversation. Although you did have some great conversational questions. But you are great a good questions!
I’m so sorry about the foot. Sensei is funny! I hope you get some relief soon because I think you are doing all the right things. Fingers crossed!
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Thanks, Wynne. I feel my martial arts knowledge slowly slipping away and it scares me.
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I can understand that – what a bummer. Maybe when you’re well, you’ll discover it’s kinda like riding a bike and you really didn’t forget?? I hope so at least!
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Wouldn’t that be nice?? But I already know better from already lived experience.
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Darn it!
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I know. 😦 What I need to do is go to class to observe, but I’m not allowed out after dark while on crutches.
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Oh, no! I hope you start to heal quickly, so you can get back to doing all the fun things. In terms of the text, I may have wanted to know the kind of wine and where that view was, so I’d hold on just a little longer for that information–and then done.
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Right?! Is it a Merlot? Is she in Napa Valley? Of course, it could actually be a text from some portly fellow in the Middle East for all we know.
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I hope your doctor gets through to them. I swear, we are not human beings in pain to insurance company’s, just a way for them to spend money. As for the text, I carried on a conversation with a spam text a year ago. When they figured out I was messing with them they told me to F off and left. 🤣
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Hahaha. Wow. Way to go messing with them. You kept them occupied so they couldn’t scam someone else. Hilarious that THEY were so annoyed at you doing what they do! Good stuff, Diane. 🙂
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Totally a scam. I am team husband, for sure.
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Lol.
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I don’t think it was a scam. I think it was an innocent mistake. I say this because I know I recently sent a text with a photo of what I was sipping to a number I thought was a friend– except I had the wrong number. In my case no one bothered to correct me. Of course I don’t have a fancy mani so there’s that…
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I’m so happy to have you weigh in on this, AB. Even before I started typing this up, I thought, “This feels like such an Ally Bean sort of story.” 😛 I’m glad you saw it and that you agree with me that it was a simple mistake. We are in the vast minority, however.
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I know! Not everything that happens is nefarious. Mistakes happen. Plus I just can’t go around doubting the motives of all of humanity.
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So true. Some call it naivety. I call it trying not to be a paranoid sourpuss. 🙂
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Yes, yes! That’s it exactly. I will not be a paranoid sourpuss… I will not be a paranoid sourpuss… I will not be a paranoid sourpuss
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Haha. 🙂
You can always remember “Heineken for the win” and smile. I know I do. 🙂
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Yep, that was a good moment! 🍻
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Heehee.
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I wouldn’t have chatted Lily up, Betsy, but only due to time constraints. The only random texts I get right now are political ads. And I’m not encouraging those. And oh no about your boo-boo. Just toss away those crutches and slap on a bandaid, girl. Honestly, insurance companies. I’d roll my eyes if they were so infuriating. Thank goodness you weren’t having a heart attack.
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For reals, Peach!
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I get what Peach is saying, and in an introspective look, I’ve noticed how much things have changed for me: years ago, I probably would have responded, today, if I don’t recognize the sender and/or it doesn’t strike me as a message from someone I know, I just ignore it … There are just too many of them, just like email spam 🤷♀️
On the insurance I’ve got to ask: who are you with?
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I was being sarcastic in my comment. Of course, Betsy needs an MRI!
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I know you were, Peach. Probably EW does too. 🙂
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🙂
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The times we live in. I would’ve given her the benefit of the doubt. If she wound up being a scammer, though, I would’ve been annoyed that I wasted my time and irritated that another person is a scammer. Then again, I would’ve taken their time away from scamming someone else. I guess there’s that. And it’s some dinky insurance you’ve probably never heard of. It may be my fault for not providing more details about the state of it. We only did telehealth, so I had to describe it. I may not have done a very good job. That’s the impression I got from “hurt foot.” Should’ve been “a foot that bent unnaturally backward”!
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Oh man this sort of thing never happens to me, I feel like I would also enjoy such an exchange as well lol unless/until they started asking me about banking information and internet passwords LOL… I have to admit, I’ve been Lonely Lily myself, not the lonely part but the Lily part, accidentally texting others with daily updates lol a not-so-recent post outlined me taking a hoity-toity pic of my cappuccino and laptop in Starbucks (it was special, to be shared among friends, because it was the first time I was able to venture out to a Starbucks to do some writing in a couple years) but unlucky for me I accidentally shared that pic with another patron of the cafe LOL ooyyyy vayy me!
*sucks about your MRI, how Rude!!
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Ha! How wild. Did the other cafe patron say something to you? Is that how you knew you’d managed to somehow send it to him/her?
And, yeah, I would’ve given Lily the benefit of the doubt and enjoyed the random exchange with a stranger unless/until the scam became clear. Then I’d be supremely annoyed.
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No I never knew who this “Lucy” was lol because I accidentally shared it via Starbucks WiFI I guess lol I have no idea how any of that works lol but of course I had to be the one to do it lol I sent a frantic texts to friends with “ERMERGERRRD WHAT DID I JUST DO!!??!” LOL
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Ha! Well, I’m sure Lucy got a kick out of it.
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Scams: 100% – I get these ALOT
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Wild (and great) that we’ve never come across this before now.
Uuumm… aren’t you on your honeymoon now? 😛
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Yes I am. Currently in San Jose we’re waiting for a tour to begin, then flying out later tonight.
Figured I’d check on a few things during down time. You’re welcome 😝😜
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You’re in my state! Are you flying farther south?
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No, heading back home. We spent our honeymoon in Carmel
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Okay, fine. But for future ref, San Diego is lovely all times of year. 😉
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Noted. 😎👍🏻
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Also a non-nail painter, which is why I wanted to know too! Such a shame. Thank you, Barb. 🙂
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Looks a little high maintenance 🙂
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Definitely. Nails grow too quickly for it to be worth it. Then it looks dumb before long and is a huge pain to remove. Last time I used nail polish, I thought, why do people do this?
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Too much work and doesn’t look good after a couple days. I mean I’m a busy lady and I can’t protect the nails from chips! Still I can appreciate a fancy design now and then 🙂
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Yes, we can appreciate them on other people. And we should be sure to let those people know we appreciate their nails so they don’t feel too badly about all the trouble they went to!
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Peach?! Insurance, Kids, the camaraderie here, where’s Stuart who got me to you…. 🤣 interesting charades….Fun post! ❣️
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Haha. Thanks for the comment, Cindy. I used it as leverage to get Stuart over here. Can’t believe he went for it so quickly. The blogging world is fun, isn’t it? I’m happy to meet you. I will be sure to check out your blog as well, but as I’ve been trying to patiently explain to Stuart, I am waaaaayyyy behind in my blog reading. At least three for him. Sigh. But I have an upcoming vacation. Hoping to get caught up then. 🙂
Cheers to you! Welcome aboard!
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I would’ve totally continued chatting, just to see what scheme that person’s running. Can’t scam me if there’s nothing to be scammed. Plus, even if I _do_ get scammed, that means I’ll get a blog post out of it, lol.
But yeah, I’m with your husband on that one. Most probably a catfishing scam of some sort.
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Look at you! Ugh! There goes my small bit of insurance. I am fully the bad guy now. Fine! I’ll get caught up! I’ll get caught up!
Haha. Nothing quite like bullying you into reading. Well done, though. And I concur with your assessment of this scam thing. Enough readers have weighed in now to convince me.
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hope you mend quickly & get back on that mat soon!
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Thanks. I wish that too. 🙂
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We are extremely suspicious re texts/calls/emails/messages from unknowns – too many potential scam scares for our liking. So I’m afraid the legitimate Lonelies wouldn’t get any satisfaction from us!
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Your vote is in the majority, Ju-Lyn. I am fully convinced now that it was a scam. So sad.
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The children and I have to talk about this often – we feel quite sad and icky about these scams because they seem so believable.
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Indeed. It’s good that you talk to them about it. I’ll have to do the same with mine at some point.
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It’s hard – especially for my younger who was actually quite traumatised by having to deal with strange phone calls that came through. And then, the fear of future phone calls sets in. Sigh.
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Oh gosh! That’s so rough. I’m sorry for you and for her having to deal with that. 😦
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S’ok. It’s something we all have to deal with eventually. We have a family friend who keeps his home phone off the hook in the day time just because he got fed up with the number of marketing & scam calls he was receiving 😆
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I don’t blame your friend for that. I’m surprised he still has a home phone. Nice thing about my cell phone is it silences unknown callers. I don’t have to deal with them at all.
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I know, right? I often wonder when we can dispense with landlines too (except for right now, our intercom access into our building is tied to our landline – antiquated system as far as I’m concerned)
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I really want to vote no to scam but I have received several texts that I thought were wrong numbers and then proved to be highly suspect. Always good to be skeptical. Friendly but skeptical.
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Just found your comment in the spam folder. I need to remember to go through there more often. Sorry for the delay! Yes, it was confirmed by someone on Twitter who had received the same thing, that this is a scam. So sad.
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I know this post is older, but I’m not sure I’d call someone trying to hook up with someone a ‘scam.’ Shady AF, maybe! My husband used to get texts from someone who called him, ‘Kiwi.’ Cracked us up because the texts were usually about something she baked for ‘Kiwi.’ Or when he was coming over.
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Haha! Oh dear! If that person was for real, I hope she got the numbers straightened out. And if it was just a bizarre scam, I’m glad you at least got some entertainment from it!
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