On Blogging and Buddies

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My fellow bloggers understand this community and the value of the friendships we’ve formed. Like me, you’ve probably seen bloggers come and go, sometimes with no word, leaving you wondering. I appreciate it when writers give a head’s up that they’re shoving off.

Still, when one of my longest-running blog buddies gave the ol’ WordPress farewell, I cried a little. It felt like a death, which I admit is kind of ridiculous, but I was devastated. Chatter Master has been almost like a mom to me (Almost, Mom! I said almost!) and a surrogate Sensei, since she’s a fourth degree black belt in Taekwondo. (It took years for me to learn this amazing, unexpected fact!) Also, that means she outranks my sensei. Heh heh. Her encouragement with my martial arts struggles took her loveliness and wisdom to a new level.

Bossy Babe has also left us. To this I maturely responded in the comments with a string of “Nooooo!!!”s. Comparatively, I only knew her a short time, but I sure enjoyed her company. She also led me to Stuart, who in turn led me to Cindy, so I’m eternally grateful.

The only blogger I’ve met in real life, so far,

is Julie Holmes. When I was in her state, she drove Three Hours One Way to pick me up and buy me tea before driving those three hours back!!! It was so wonderful. Meeting Julie, not the tea, well probably both, but the tea was far less memorable. We lamented later that we forget to get a picture!

Julie has been so busy writing her next books, she fell behind on blog reading, which I forgive. ๐Ÿ˜‰ So it was amusing to see notification after notification, roughly three minutes apart, at the start of this year. She downed nearly 50 posts!

Clearly not 50, but only so many can fit on my screen at once.

I couldn’t help but text her, as I was genuinely curious.

She commented on the last post:

On her blog she wrote to me:

One resolution accomplished! (BTW, hubs kept asking why Iโ€™ve been laughing all day. I told him I was reading your blog.)

I so appreciate how y’all make me laugh too.

After this post where I included some of may favorite comments, Mike wrote:

That made me laugh. A lot.

Then there’s Andrew who laid out an entire novel plot involving characters from my Joy-Jitsu world: Instructor, Enthusiastic Teen, and Surfer Dude 1. That may require its own blog post.

To top things off, the aforementioned Stuart said:

“I can always rely on you to bring a huge dose of charm and sunshine to this part of the web!”

I mean, with friends like you, who needs real life?

Kidding, but my last post about sharing my blog with Sensei garnered some interesting comments, namely people saying they keep their blog world a secret from their real life friends, even calling me brave for letting the Monkey out of the bag.

How intriguing. I don’t hide the fact that I have a blog from my real life friends, but I don’t know that any of them read it, which I’m fine with either way. I think blog buddies work well for introverted writers like me: I like friends, but I also like staying at home. In the blogging world, I get to interact with friends whenever we feel like it from the comfort of my pajamas without having to scrub the guest toilet first.

So my questions for you are:

  1. Have you been bummed/curious/concerned when blog buddies disappeared with no word?
  2. Have you cried or been sorrowful over a BB saying, “Peace out, blog world?”
  3. Have you met or hope to meet any BBs?
  4. Do you hide your blog from your real life friends, and if so, why?

Thank you for reading. I appreciate you all. ๐Ÿ™‚

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  1. First of all, since we live so close, trying to arrange a meet-up is now one of my 2023 intentions. Now, for your questions:

    1) Yes, I have had several blog buddies disappear without a word. I still think about some of them from time to time and wonder if they are okay.
    2) Just slightly less sad are the ones who leave with a “good-bye” post. At least they let us know.
    3) I have met over 10 BBs, several who have become good friends IRL. In fact, some of us zoom regularly and travel together. If I am traveling to an area that I know a blogger I follow lives, I will often reach out to see if I can arrange a meet-up. Most have been very receptive. That has happened the other way around too. In many ways, a few blogger buddies have become better/closer friends than others I met in more conventual ways.
    4) As I mentioned before, I don’t normally mention my blog to real life friends. A few good friends know about it and read it regularly but, mostly, I like to keep those worlds separate. I guess it’s because I’m an introvert and am not comfortable calling attention to myself. I would NEVER link my Facebook world to my blogging world, for instance.

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    • I believe we follow bloggers who share at least some of our interests, our sense of humor, those who could be friends. So if one disappears without a word, like Janis, I would worry (especially if it’s one of my favorite ones!). When a blogger I liked disappeared over the summer, I wrote them (the WP message got bounced back ๐Ÿ˜ฆ ).

      So I think it’s wonderful to form tighter communities in the blogosphere, just like there can be tighter communities irl. Just like the wonderful example you gave, Betsy, of Chatter Master, who, sadly, I _JUST_ found and then she left…

      And it’s funny, idk that any of my rl friends blog. But then they don’t know that I blog, I wonder if one of you is my rl bff? ๐Ÿ˜›

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      • Great assessment as to how we form these friendships, EW. Such a bummer when we’re left wondering about people, right? I try to hope for the best. Another commenter said he trusts they’ve found something they enjoy more than blogging and he lets them go. That’s a good attitude, though a hard one. ๐Ÿ˜ฆ I want my friends to stay forever! Waaaa!!!

        That would be SO. Wild to discover that an incognito blog buddy was your rl friend! I would so Love that! You, however, I know live forever and ever away. Why haven’t you moved here yet???

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    • Oh! Oh! Janis! Didn’t you mention knowing the owner of a particular establishment with the initials of BB? THAT would be the PERfect place to meet a BB, no? Let’s make it happen!

      I remember your travels to Canada to meet with blogging buddies. One was a mutual friend, Erica/Erika. I’m sad she’s not around anymore, though I’m trusting she’s flourishing and spreading her joy with the world in other ways.

      You are so blessed to have met so many BBs! I really need to step up my game, travel more, or end every post with, “If you’re ever in the San Diego area…” ๐Ÿ™‚

      Introvert, not calling attention to yourself–bingo. In fact, the only reason I think some of my friends know, is because when I went out of state and met Julie Holmes, I told friends about the trip, including meeting her, so… And yet none of my friends seem to care to read my blog. Que sera, etc. ๐Ÿ™‚

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  2. I didn’t realize there was going to be a test when I started reading this post, but here goes.
    Have you been bummed/curious/concerned when blog buddies disappeared with no word? I usually am sorry but figure their life is their own, and so mentally I let them go
    Have you cried or been sorrowful over a BB saying, โ€œPeace out, blog world?โ€ I have been very sad when my favorite bloggers pass away. This has happened a lot over the last five years. When folks simply leave I am glad they are doing something that makes them happier than blogging.
    Have you met or hope to meet any BBs? I have met BBs and it has been a wonderful experience. Interestingly all are female. The men don’t seem to have the same desire to get together.
    Do you hide your blog from your real-life friends, and if so, why? No, I don’t hide, and real friends seem to enjoy the posts.

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  3. Like you, I’ve connected with some amazing people here on WordPress and am saddened when they leave. I feel most concerned for those individuals who go silent without a word. I assume the worse and hold them close to my heart. I learned through another blogger that one such amazing person had passed away. I continue to feel her loss โค Crazy, isn't it? My blog is no secret to those who know me.

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  4. I had only recently started following Chatter Matter (thanks to you) and was sad to see her go. How fascinating that she was a fourth degree black belt in Taekwondo! Wow – the things I learn on your blog.

    As for goals, my goal is to be the next blog buddy to meet you IRL!! Happy blog Sunday my friend!! โค โค โค

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  5. 1. yes, when they leave with no warning 2. yes, I’ve missed them when they are gone 3. I have met one who I did not know lived close to me and was connected to other friends of mine, one who lives in ny state, when he and his wife met me for dinner and gave me a ride (another blog story), one who came to a city about a 1/2 from me when she was doing a food review, and one in Ireland when I was visiting – all incredibly wonderful experiences. 4. all of my friends know of my blog but I’m sure not all of them read or respond. I can see why it is tempting to keep it secret for it is a place to reveal parts of yourself that not everyone may know, in a space that is welcoming and supportive without judgement.

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  6. When a blogger goes MIA sometimes Iโ€™ll reach out via email. I have a few bloggers who will email me because they know I worry. Over the years, thereโ€™s been a few bloggers who left WP, but since we were friends weโ€™ve stayed in contact.

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    • Yes, as John said, he trusts they found something like enjoy more than blogging and “let’s them go.” That’s a good attitude. I’ll try to adopt it too.

      Certainly not my usual fare (is that the right spelling?), so I’m glad you enjoyed the post, Jacqui. ๐Ÿ™‚

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  7. My real life friends know that I maintain a blog, but very few Malaysians visit my blog. It’s mostly the already-present demographic on WordPress that visits i.e. USA, India, UK. And since I chat on WordPress much more than I do in real life, my BBs basically know more about me than some of my friends, lolol.

    Which is why it’s a lil sad to see some bloggers announce their hiatus. Jim Borden just took a break for the second time, as well as Pete Springer. And I read Bosssy Jen’s farewell post and was sad too.

    I’d definitely meet up with my BBs if it wasn’t for my physical location. Maybe someday when I visit the US.

    Thanks so much for the mention, Betsy!

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    • My BBs probably know a lot more about me than rl friends, too. I think there are still some in the dark about me doing jiu-jitsu. But, I don’t like to talk about myself, so I guess that makes sense.

      A BB in Singapore and I have long been discussing what all we’ll do there when I come for a visit. Perhaps I can arrange a stop-over in Malaysia.

      Alternatively, if you do visit the U.S., you’ll have a lot ground to cover!

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  8. Kudos to Julie! Thatโ€™s a serious follower!

    1. Iโ€™ve been at this since 2008, so I can safely say more than half of the people Iโ€™ve blogged with have disappeared. Itโ€™s always rather odd, especially when they delete their blog without a word. I truly miss most of them. Iโ€™m one of those people who keep in touch with elementary school friends, so I value friendships, whether irl or online.

    2. Most bloggers Iโ€™ve known havenโ€™t said goodbye; they just go silent. Sadly, my second longest follower passed away in May of leukemia. He commented in April that he was beating it and then a few months later another follower emailed me with concerns. Fortunately, I knew his real name and location, so I googled him and found his obituary. It was a shock.

    3. I havenโ€™t met anyone and probably wonโ€™t because of #4. However, I could see myself making an exception for you, since we grew up so near to each other and if you were ever in the area and free . . .

    4. Yes, Iโ€™m completely anonymous for the reasons I gave in previous post.

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    • 1. That’s rough, Bijoux, to lose so many blog friends without a trace. :/

      2. I think you wrote about that. I’m glad you were able to find out, but still, so sad.

      3. Oh for sure about if I’m ever in the area. Such fantastic foods and cocktails you could introduce me to! I drool over the pics you post.

      4. And you’re what inspired me to ask. (And one other commenter.) I’m finding there’s quite the gamut of different responses to this question. It’s not something I ever really thought about, but now that I have, I find it so interesting. I’m a fan of human psychology (only took one class in college), but, in general, I like to understand what motivates people. ๐Ÿ™‚

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  9. Reading this reminded me of pen pals….only in a modern way. A sort of “key pal”…”keyboard pal”…”blogger pal”….I’ll keep working on it. Something like that.

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  10. I love that you’ve made so many meaningful friendships blogging, and I agree with Stuart, you do bring a dose of charm and sunshine to this part of the web ๐Ÿ™‚ As far as BB’s who go silent, I’m afraid I might be one of the disappearee’s rather, since I’m more a fly by night, short-timer kind of blogger (and, yes, one day I will actually post something on my blog). I, frankly, just like interacting with all of you guys and reading your stuff.

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  11. This is a rather interesting prompt, Betsy! ๐Ÿ˜ So here’s my take on your questions:

    1. Have you been bummed/curious/concerned when blog buddies disappeared with no word?

    Somehow, but not to the point that I’ll check up on them. I mean, we’re all adults here and we can figure out things, including when to take a break from blogging and when to return. I’m not someone who dips my fingers into other people’s personal business.

    2. Have you cried or been sorrowful over a BB saying, โ€œPeace out, blog world?โ€

    No, just sad. Aside from change itself, nothing is permanent in this world.

    3. Have you met or hope to meet any BBs?

    Yes. I’ve met several blog followers I have who are based in Manila. Some others, meanwhile, have been my colleagues throughout my more than 10 years of working white-collar jobs. Hopefully, I do meet others when they visit the Philippines.

    4. Do you hide your blog from your real life friends, and if so, why?

    No, but I do hide it from my family. Only my younger brother knows about my blog.

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  12. 1. Yes. I made some very good friendships with a few who’ve disappeared. I wondered how stalker it would look to e-mail and ask if it was a crocodile attack.
    One time, I looked the blog up and the blogger’s sons had posted that he died unexpectedly…. so at least I had closure.
    2. In my early years of blogging, I definitely mourned blogger departures. I think I convinced one to stick around. Now I’m so busy and have nothing in the way of my intended-to-publish novel that I understand.
    3. I want to meet all by BBs. So far, I’ve met two and loved it. Both happened recently. I’ve also e-mailed a few like pen pals and loved that, and called a few.
    4. I keep what I write online a bit vague when I write about specific people (I say ‘relative’ instead of ‘sister’ or ‘cousin’ or ‘aunt.’). I tell many IRL that I have a blog but few actually seem interested.

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  13. Hey, Betsy! Love reading all of the comments. Yes — when I was blogging in another life, I think I departed, in part, because I lost my peeps! I spent so much time wondering/worrying about sudden exits, debated whether I should reach out…too intrusive…wait and see…and eventually, my professional life zapped any spare time for blogging, so it didn’t matter. But — this time around, I’m trying to find my lighter side – enjoy the interaction with fab folks w/o overthinking. Most of all, I wish fellow bloggers well and try to send that out cosmically…who doesn’t need that? And I think a ‘blog cruise’ or progressive trip would be amazing…my blog buds are every bit as real and wonderful in the ways that matter…which my ‘IRL’ friends and family still wonder about…and I’m a-okay with that. Xo and Happy Monday to you! ๐Ÿ˜‰โค๐Ÿ˜‰

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  14. Have you been bummed/curious/concerned when blog buddies disappeared with no word? Yes

    Have you cried or been sorrowful over a BB saying, โ€œPeace out, blog world?โ€ Yes, even tried to convince a few to come back– to no avail

    Have you met or hope to meet any BBs? I’d like to meet some of my BB

    Do you hide your blog from your real life friends, and if so, why? No! I’ve always been open about my blog and tend to find it rude that some real life friends don’t follow me… if they have time for FB… ๐Ÿคทโ€โ™€๏ธ

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    • I tried to convince a few to come back to no avail also. :/

      If they have time for FB… Huh. I suppose, though, that FB is tiny chunks, whereas a blog post requires more sustained attention and time. (Though if people paid attention to how much time their FB scrolling ate up, I’m sure they’d be shocked.) In general, we have become conditioned to have very short attention spans. I admit, shamefully, that unless it’s a blogger I’ve already become friends with, when I see a long post, I tend to leave.

      Sometimes I can tell from the comments that even some of my faithful followers have only skimmed, especially if it’s a longer post, but that’s okay. I get it.

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  15. BLOGGING BUDDY!!! Yay. ๐Ÿ™‚ Anytime you need a novel outline, just let me know. In fact, I’ve been thinking that rather than actually trying to write a novel, I’m just going to publish outlines of my stories. Faster to write, faster to read and lets people fill in their own details.

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  16. 1. Have you been bummed/curious/concerned when blog buddies disappeared with no word? Yes, and it’s always disconcerting. I was once convinced a coworker was dead when he failed to show up on time and still hadn’t reported in after two hours, but it turned out he’d just overslept. What can I say? My mind tends to go to dark places.
    2. Have you cried or been sorrowful over a BB saying, โ€œPeace out, blog world?โ€ Well, it’s better than having them disappear without a word and assuming they’re dead.
    3. Have you met or hope to meet any BBs? No, but I hope to someday! Well, except for the one I married. And the other one I dated. And the one whose wedding I attended. The one I vacationed with in a beachfront house in Washington. The one I spent a fun weekend with in North Dakota. The countless others I’ve met up with for lunch or dinner or, in one case, brunch. I’m the wrong person to ask, clearly!
    4. Do you hide your blog from your real life friends, and if so, why? Nope; I cross-post everything to Facebook. But I no longer advertise the blog to coworkers or, especially, bosses.

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  17. A lot of bloggers from my earlier days have disappeared. I haven’t cried, but I do miss them. One, in particular, wrote a farewell message saying she was dealing with cancer. I do wonder about her sometimes and hope she’s ok.
    I’ve had 4 meet-ups: One on a layover in Bangkok (that was Liveandletthai – I probably miss him the most. We’re FB friends, but I miss his hilarious blog posts), one in Luang Prabang, Laos, one very spontaneously in Georgetown, Colorado, this past summer, and one from afar who happened to be in Minnesota for a half marathon. I’m hoping to meet an Australian blog buddy in 2024 when I go there in the early part of the summer AND she comes here in the late part of the summer – total coincidence but it will be amazing if it works out.
    I don’t hide my blog from my friends, but I’m pretty secretive about it at work. A few close teaching colleagues know about it, but that’s it. I also don’t do FB with colleagues. I like to keep a very clear separation between my home life and work life.

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  18. Betsy, great post๐Ÿ‘ When I just started to write blogs, I was so excited and let my friends know that I have my own website and write blogs. I donโ€™t think they were excited and eager to read as I was๐Ÿ˜„However, my husband is my editor, haha. I feel I have improved English writing a lot from writing blogs and I am very pleased. Now I am not recommending my blogs to friends๐Ÿ˜‰ I do enjoy the blog community and reading other blogs.

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    • I make my husband proofread for me too, when he’s around. Your English is terrific. What a great way to practice writing! Brilliant idea, and who doesn’t love reading about and seeing pictures of places around the world? I’m glad you started your blog. Your real life friends are missing out.

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  19. 1. Yes. Years ago I had a ‘conversation’ in comments and emails with other bloggers who had plans to have someone say goodbye on their blog if they passed away or could no longer blog. He has disappeared and I have searched for him so many times. I think about him so often.
    2. Yes. A wonderful blogger, Irish Katie, told us ‘goodbye’ as she was dealing with and ultimately passed from cancer. I cried more than once.
    3. Yes. I have. And I still hope to ๐Ÿ˜‰
    4. No. I think if I had I would possibly still be blogging. I do wish I had kept it hidden/anonymous.

    And. Thank you for the love and always there support. It means a great deal to me. โค๏ธ

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    • Replying first to your comment on your blog, since Iโ€™m not allowed to there. First, ah the cabin. It has been too long since Iโ€™ve seen my family north in your state. I should do that and take a little drive too.

      Shoot. More to comeโ€ฆ

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      • Still couldn’t comment on your blog. So back here I go. This is slightly edited from what was meant to go on The Chatter Blog. If you receive the original in your email inbox, you’ll see what I mean. Anyhow, here’s the rest of it:

        Okay, now I can comment here. Last night I was on my phone in the back of TKD when class ended and I had to vamoose. Maybe my phone was just being silly. But that’s also why the abrupt ending.

        Interesting that WP was making it hard for you to move forward with writing. Sounds like you made the right decision, that is, no longer blogging but continuing to comment back and forth with ME. I’m glad your priorities are straight. ๐Ÿ˜‰ ๐Ÿ˜›

        Doodling and writing…. Oh, CM. That sounds like the life!

        Before TKD last night, we paid a quick visit to the library. On the way out, my daughter made a point to step on one of those big dry leaves. I smiled and thought of you. And how I’ve trained the next generation of leaf-stompers well. Yesterday was also a gloriously windy day. Also thought of you.

        Anyone else who dares call me PIF will be blocked on sight.

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    • 1. Sad and rough. My first(ish) follower was called Belly Button Blues. I often wonder about her. I pray she’s well and happy.
      2. Also sad and rough. ๐Ÿ˜ฆ I pray her soul is happy.
      3. Heh heh. ๐Ÿ˜‰
      4. Interesting…

      You will always have my love and support, CM. โค

      but also…

      ๐Ÿ˜ก

      because I had to. ๐Ÿ™‚

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  20. Aww Iโ€™m really glad youโ€™ve found the blogging world to be so damn amazing, too! Iโ€™ve also made friends through blogging and find the friendships, and the more casual acquaintances, priceless. Iโ€™ve no friends โ€˜in real lifeโ€™ and nobody I ever hang out with nearby (get our your tiny violin) so being able to connect as we do online, whenever we can as itโ€™s so versatile and flexible, is incredible. With that does come the sadness when someone goes, and Iโ€™m sorry youโ€™ve been there too ๐Ÿ˜ฆ

    Iโ€™ve noticed several people go.. some just disappear and never come back (what worries me is if I know their email address and contact them to check theyโ€™re okay but they donโ€™t reply, and I donโ€™t know if itโ€™s because something is wrong, or because they no longer use that email). Iโ€™ve had a blogging friend commit suicide, that was the hardest. Cried a long time and I just hope she knew how much she was loved and how much she meant to people because blogging actually isnโ€™t the same with her, without emailing her, without her comments.

    I sort of do hide my blog from most people I knew โ€˜beforeโ€™. Not all, but most. I also donโ€™t disclose something on my blog (what my first surgery was) because I still feel so humiliated. Iโ€™m just a huge hypocrite really! But I agree in how you say that blogging buddies is something that does work well for the more introverted, those that need the space and want the comfort of doing it when it works for us and from home, too.

    Loved the post, Betsy – itโ€™s good to know someone else counts blogging buddies and online friends as just as real and important as those in the โ€˜offlineโ€™ world.

    Caz xx

    PS. Just realised I donโ€™t have you on Twitter so Iโ€™ve just started following ๐Ÿ™‚

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    • And I followed you back! Thanks for finding me! ๐Ÿ™‚

      Oh, gosh, a blog friend committed suicide? Oh, my. That’s… that’s really rough.

      Love that you’re calling yourself a hypocrite. Ah, I love the honesty there. It’s good to be self-aware. ๐Ÿ˜›

      Not only are “blogging buddies and online friends just as real and important as those in the โ€˜offlineโ€™ world,” I’d say sometimes they’re even more so. But I’m hoping you can have both. ๐Ÿ™‚

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  21. That was such a great visit we had! I was so glad to have the opportunity to meet you IRL. Still bummed about forgetting to take a pic. And really bummed about having to cancel our meet in 2020. Damn pandemic! Still debating about Bouchercon in San Diego this year. Just got my travel plans finalized for Left Coast Crime in Tucson this spring. Eek. Not sure my budget will be able to handle SD also. ๐Ÿ˜ฆ

    A test? Really? Okay, here goes. I’ve fallen way behind on following blogs that I used to follow religiously. I feel terrible for lapsing on Diana’s blog, Mae’s blog (you know my Muse and Mr E were pub crawl buddies), Staci’s blog, and a couple others. I do know they have each had periods where they took a blogging break because of other stuff happening in their life. If something happened to them, I’d definitely be sad. I’d love to meet a number of my BB IRL. Hey, maybe Paul needs to visit family in MN again this year (hint!)

    My IRL friends know about my blog, and a number of them read it. They especially like it when my Muse makes an appearance. Not sure why ๐Ÿ˜‰

    PS: hope the dragon is enjoying his stay out there. It’s cold here again, so I’m guessing he’ll find some excuses to stick around with you ๐Ÿ™‚

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    • Ah, the pesky pandemic. And I understand about not being able to do both writing conferences. Paul did actually go back to MN last summer for a reunion, but we determined he can take one kid with him at a time. It’s just too darn expensive for all six of us to fly there.

      I hope I didn’t get you in trouble with Diana by showing off your devotion here. ๐Ÿ˜‰ I, too, am bad at keeping up with blogs. If they post once a week (better yet–less!), I can usually manage. Those daily posters are just beyond me, both in reading, and in Wow! How can they manage to post that often?

      Nice that your IRL friends read your blog. Every once in a very blue moon I’ll get a comment from someone I know IRL and it always shocks me. I wonder if any others are lurking.

      I’m not sure how much longer your dragon can put up with the rain here. We’ve had a nice brief respite, but we’re about to get hit again. I wouldn’t be surprised if he showed up, spiky tail between his legs, before too long. ๐Ÿ™‚

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      • I get the pricey air fare. You’ll get your turn to come out here with Paul, right? I mean, your girls are old enough to keep Joe from getting into too much trouble.

        And yes, those daily posters–how can they keep up? I have enough trouble with my weekly posts sometimes. Oh, wait, most of them are retired …

        Hmm. I’ll keep an eye out. He’s okay with some rain, but you guys have been getting a lot lately. I do suspect, though, he’d take rain over single-digit temps any day!

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      • The reunions are every three years. We have two more kids to cycle through. Then maybe it will be my turn. What are you doing in July of 2031? ๐Ÿ˜› We’ll see what happens. ๐Ÿ™‚

        Retirement certainly has its perks. And all that reading they get to do…. Drool…

        He’s certainly welcome to stay as long as he likes. He’s not at furry kitty, but he’s great at warming my feet up when he comes in at night and gets cozy at the bottom of my bed. ๐Ÿ™‚

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  22. So this is what I get for falling behind on my blog reading, Betsy. I JUST commented on this topic from your last post and thought, “Hey, you should write about that…”… and you already DID! Jaw-drop. You’ll have to clue us in on how you read minds.

    I shall answer your survey avoiding the responses “Yes” and “No”:
    1) Not REALLY, because my only examples left me with “I’m taking a break” so I waited patiently for them to return. Then they didn’t, by which time I’d forgotten about them and moved on to those who are still in the game.
    2) Not really, because (related to the first answer) I’ve never followed a blog where the writer declared, “That’s it, my friends. Done. Finished. Kaput. Canceling my WP subscription.”
    3) Thought about it, but probably not, even if I had the opp. I’d be afraid a) they’d think I’m some sort of stalker, and b) their WP persona wouldn’t match the real thing and then I’d be disappointed FOREVER. Maybe I should be thankful I didn’t go through the whole online dating thing, huh?
    4) Not intentionally but that’s a product of my humility. Not gonna bring up my blog in conversation as if to say, “Hey, you should read my wonderful musings”. I’d rather someone else say, “Hey, you should read Dave’s wonderful musings”. On that note, I don’t use the social media options of WP to grow my following. I prefer the “organic” approach (“grow, little flower, grow!). If my creation stays small, so be it ๐Ÿ™‚

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    • Too funny, Dave! Now, is it that I read your mind here, or you read MINE?

      For 1 and 2, that’s good news for you.
      3, I almost met two, but when it came down to it, I got really nervous, so I was glad it didn’t work out. With the one I did meet, we’d been close blog buds for a while, so I knew it would be safe.
      4. Agreed. That’s my approach too. If someone else said, hey, you should read Betsy’s blog! That would be cool. It’s never happened. I’m not a toot my own horn type, but if something blog-related comes up organically, I may mention it. Not offended that my friends don’t read it. We’ve all got stuff to do. ๐Ÿ™‚

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