Hey, Ma, look what I can do!


No, not wear mismatched socks; although, yes, that. My right foot can wear normal socks; the left requires larger fluffier socks. And doesn’t it deserve that?

For the first time since I was… what?… seven months? When do kids stand for the first time? I should know this. Anyway, I discovered I can put my foot down.

And keep it there.

I’m standing on my own two feet again.

For a few seconds before it starts hurting. But still! Progress!

Several of you have inquired how my healing is going, and my answer has pretty much been: it’s not. Since many of you also comment that I’m great at keeping my chin up, I haven’t wanted to talk about my struggles and let you down.

It’s really not so bad, but maybe the worst is when I dream that I can walk and then within my dream am like, “Oh. Wait.”

Or when watching something and thinking, “Wow. That person can walk!” Or seeing pics of my younger self as, “back in the good ol’ days when I could walk.”

Which is sort of dumb since it’s only been months, not years. And these are not complaints or “where are my tissues?” thoughts. They’re just a shift in perspective that makes me sooooo not take walking for granted. When I can actually do so again, it’s going to be uh-mazing!

On our recent family trip to the zoo, I saw an old lady also in a wheelchair. As we rolled past each other, I wanted to double tap my chest and extend a peace sign in solidarity. But she probably would’ve thought/discovered what a weirdo I am.

Before Christmas, we went to a shopping center that had a huge Christmas tree strung with lights that impressively changed color in time with festive music. There was also a machine blowing bubbles for kids, including mine, to prance around in and pop.

I sat nearby in my wheelchair, remarking to Hubs that I felt like a 90-year-old watching her great grandchildren. All I needed was a quilt across my lap.

Actually, that would’ve been nice. It was kind of chilly.


Y’all were enthusiastic about my Photo Dump idea, and I didn’t even “dump” all my random pics in that post.

So here’s another:

Hubs took this outside Target. I found it so artistic.

And another:

No real comment here, just, wow, look at that beautiful purple flower.

And uno mas:

A piece of Christmas decor at my Jiu-Jitsu place. The box was so fuzzy, I wanted to pet it like a kitten on my lap while I observed class.

Speaking of, some cool stuff from my last visit:

Instructor rolling over backwards directly into a standing position facing his opponent. This was almost as cool as that time he did a leaping triangle choke from standing, onto his brother, also standing. This involves wrapping one’s legs around the other’s neck, mind you.

Regarding the T-choke, he frequently uses the Disneyland balloon analogy of making sure you trap your opponent’s head so he doesn’t “float” away. He added to this:

“If you save your receipt for the balloon at Disneyland, they’ll give you a new one. But there are no refunds for the triangle choke.”

I can’t tell you how much I loved that.

Instructor has also frequently advocated for the importance of first trying to avoid the fight.

“But if you lay a hand on me, I am so sorry for what is about to happen to you.”

So awesome and made better by the fact that Instructor is such a small person.

I was surprised to learn that no one had received their next belt yet.

Surprised. Somewhat relieved. And a little vindicated.

It’s HARD to pass the belt test. Not just for me.

Muscular Gym Rat, the one who calls me “Killer” and likes to offer me advice, reported that he only finished the first test drill. So, like me, he was only able to perfect one drill at a time. I’ll just set aside, for the moment, that to me the first drill is the hardest, whereas the one I completed is the easiest.

The point is: It’s not just me struggling with this. NONE of the guys clamoring to catch up with me have tested on despite the massive time advantage I’ve given them.

Suddenly I don’t feel quite so bad at this after all.

But I did have one other concern, which I voiced to Instructor when he opened the door for me on my way out:

“Do you think it’s less fun for the guys when the girl is here?”

“No,” he said.

“I’m not ruining boys’ club?”

He shook his head and again said, “No.” And he seemed to mean it.

Just checking. I wouldn’t want to beat anyone up when I get back in there, which my foot is itching to do.

And finally, here’s Hubs when we came across the male mariachi counterpart [see last post] at a different store:

You’re welcome.

Here’s to 2023!


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  1. Oh, wow. I’ve been offline for so long, I didn’t realize you’d been hurt, Betsy. I don’t know the details but I am sending healing vibes your way. A wheelchair? Please tell me you’ll be out of it soon!

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  2. My grandkids tell me that wearing mismatched socks is the fashion these days – own it! I never wear mismatched socks because I only buy one kind, usually by the dozen. Even if I wanted to wear mismatched socks I couldn’t because I only have one kind. You’re lucky to have more than one kind of sock.

    I know people who could make you a custom lap quilt if you wanted. Maybe something with pictures of kitties, choke holds, take downs, and bottles of Corona.

    And I don’t see you as a great grandmother. At worst a grandmother, but much to young for a great grandmother … just say’n.

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    • You’re right, Andrew. It’s all about perspective. I’m blessed to own mismatched socks.

      The lap quilt sounds amazing. Though, honestly, I’d be happy with a lap kitty. 😻

      You’re right. Great grandma is a bit much. I ought not get ahead of myself. Not even Flojo is one of those yet.

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  3. The red circle pic IS artistic. It also perfectly encapsulates the friendship of the two siblings. And the rat trap in the back is a nice touch. Very avant-garde and somewhat thought-provoking.

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  4. Oh, I’m laughing (about it being chilly and you needed a blanket) and cheering (you’re standing) and awe-ing (a leaping triangle choke on his brother who was standing). And also finding it so interesting that no one else has leveled up. A really hard feat to accomplish – yep, a little vindication for sure!!

    Keep healing and catch up!! Love the pic of your hubby as a mariachi! XOXO my friend!

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    • Thank you for touching on so many things, Wynne. It’s nice to know someone else appreciates these things. But, of course, you’re at the point of reading my mind (because you’re amazing!!) so it’s no wonder. πŸ˜‰


  5. TWO feet on the floor! That’s a big deal and a wonderful step [pun intended] forward for you. I can’t lie, given the chance to go full great-grandma I’m disappointed that you didn’t think to take a quilt to put over your lap when you went to the mall. Just saying…

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  6. Betsy, I like the picture at Target’s too. He did good. You know some times you just need a warm quilt to bundle up. My niece lived with us for several months and she always wore mismatched socks. She was too lazy to pair them, so she just grabbed and ran. Hope you get fully mended. Moms are needed. Keith

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    • Moms are definitely needed, but it’s nice to see my girls step up and be little mommas. One of them even wiped her little brother’s bum yesterday. I was impressed! (And surprised!)

      I’m discovering that fuzzy socks make the world go round. We all need more of them in our lives.

      And thanks for also appreciating the Target pic! πŸ™‚


  7. I hate to ask this, but have you had a bone density scan? I just found out I have osteoporosis and we are of similar build. All I can say is start drinking milk now and do weight training.
    What you are going through sounds ridiculously lengthy. Did the doctor say that’s normal? I feel for you, my friend. Here’s hoping you’re walking soon.

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    • Oooh, interesting. And sorry to hear that about you, Bijoux. :/

      I’m lousy at drinking milk, but I have been taking calcium supplements recently. My dad years ago warned me about osteoporosis because it afflicts skinny women more. I see an orthopedic specialist on Monday. Maybe he’ll suggest the scan. I’ll report back!

      I do lift weights, so at least I’ve got that going. My left leg muscles are gone as a result of disuses, however. :/

      And thanks, Bijoux. That means a lot to me. I feel the virtual hug. πŸ™‚


      • You are welcome. I know I’d be going nuts not being able to walk around. Are you driving?

        Yeah, I knew about the osteoporosis and β€˜slight’ woman connection (I think that’s the new PC word for skinny 🀣) connection, but I thought that my walking 3-4 miles a day would prevent it. Wrong! I’m glad you’re lifting weights; I only started that a year ago and wasn’t even consistent at it. Too little too late.

        Hope you keep improving with the standing and movement.

        P.S. I posted!

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      • I had no idea weight training helped stave off osteoporosis. I’ll have to read up on that.

        I can drive one of our vehicles because it’s an automatic. Good thing I hurt the left foot; however, the right foot hurts after pressing down on the pedals. :/ Fortunately, I only drive the relatively short distance to and from taking the girls to taekwondo, where I wait in the car with sweaters on my legs for blankets. (Not super cold here, fortunately.)

        “Slight” woman. Lame. Haha.

        Thanks for telling me you posted!


      • Super annoying about this blogspot/Wordpress battle. Someone else whose blogspot posts I was getting have also disappeared. I couldn’t find a place to resubscribe there either. Super weird.

        More resistance training and more calcium. On it!

        And now off to your blog!


  8. That saying, “A journey of 1000 miles begins with the first step” must be particularly meaningful to you right now. By the way, I love that you dressed in Target colors when shopping at Target. Do you color-coordinate for all stores? It must be tricky when you hit up several shops on errand day – haha! πŸ˜‰


    • That was actually my daughter, who happens to love red and so is frequently wearing it–even in three different shades. Pure coincidence, but it did turn out well, didn’t it? πŸ˜›

      Gosh, and with that first step will be a 1000 miles of steps to be fully walking normal again. It’s going to be an adventure! πŸ™‚


  9. Can’t wait for Bethany (superpower alter-ego) to sport her moves again, but meanwhile it’s great to see her posts haven’t lost their pop. Also great to see the physical progress, creatively expressed through mismatched socks. She’ll be back on her feet – literally – before she knows it.


  10. This has been a long recovery, Betsy, but there’s progress! And that’s great. You’ll be walking again in no time. Thanks for sharing some fun pics too. The Target one is very artistic. πŸ˜€ but my fav is your mariachi husband. πŸ™‚ Lol.

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  11. If you read the first 4 sentences of this post and forgot that you injured your ankle, it reads very philosophically. I was going a completely different direction with it for awhile. πŸ˜€ πŸ˜€ I love that your instructor can do the Black Widow move and apologizes to the person who lays their hand on him before he destroys them. Altogether, great! πŸ˜€

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  12. First, congratulations on ‘putting your foot down.” I assumed at first you meant in a disciplinarian way, as in “no, you may not jump off the top of our roof, and how’d you get up there in the first place?” Second, patience is too too hard at your age (and any age) and I wish you’d given the fist bump and peace sign to the woman in the wheelchair. She may feel as frustrated as you do. Here’s to HEALING in 2023 – as fast as possible. But with patience. πŸ™‚

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  13. You’ll have to give an update after you see Dr Monday. He’ll probably tell you “Stay off your feet” and “Exercise!” Can you practice rolls, choke holds (not on the children, of course), anything?

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  14. I’m so impressed that you still attend class and that you are eager to get back at it. I would have used my injury as an excuse to find something less risky to do… like competitive Wordle. In fact, my fall off a ladder several years ago that resulted in a broken hip has turned out to be a wonderful excuse not to climb up more than three or four rungs anymore.

    And, and I agree with Bijoux, get a bone density scan. I have small bones and they are especially prone to breaking. Weight-bearing exercises – including walking when you can again – are important.

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    • Thanks, Janis (and Bijoux). I see a specialist Monday morning. I’ll ask him if he thinks I need a bone density scan. I’m pretty sure I’m small boned to begin with. I should’ve been more pro-active. :/

      I’ve been able to get out of stuff as a result of not being able to walk: grocery shopping (which I actually sort of enjoyed, but not that much), wiping Joe’s bottom (definitely didn’t enjoy), some cooking, laundry… so, you know, still taking some advantage. πŸ˜‰

      Competitive Wordle! Ha. That would stress me out. Although, last night Hubs asked for help and I got it for him, thankyouverymuch.

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  15. *pumps fist* Woo-hoo! I did it! I got all caught up!

    Seriously, though, Bijoux is right about bone density. I hope they have good news for you on Monday. And dang, that foot is taking FOR-EV-ER to heal. Hope you can park the wheelchair for good soon.

    Also, lap blanket? I’ve taken up crocheting blankets since 2020 (good brain-dead activity to keep my hands busy while watching TV before bed). If you still need one, email me your address.

    Is the dragon enjoying the warm weather out there? I’m sure he doesn’t miss the snow we got πŸ™‚ My other one is enjoying the deep snow–she rolls around in it!

    I’ve pretty much made up my mind that I want to get two kittens. It’s just a matter of timing. Not sure I want to wait until Zoey is classified as a senior cat–she’s only about 9 years old, so she’ll be around for a while yet–but it’ll have to be spring/summer so Zoey can escape the interlopers. I also told my son I’d be happy to adopt Nyx, but he wasn’t keen on the idea for some reason πŸ™‚

    Heal fast, my friend! And hope you hear good news from your full manuscript sub soon!

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    • You’re amazing, Julie! What devotion! I’m impressed and honored that you took the time to catch up on my life.

      Yes, I’ll ask the doc about the bone density thing. And for-ev-er is right! I’m kind of embarrassed to go back to class. The guys are probably wondering what the heck is wrong with me. (Them and me.)

      That’s cool that you crochet blankets! Thank you for offering, but we have loads of blankets. If there’s a next time, I’ll just take one with me.

      I’ve barely seen dragon for all the fun he’s been having. But he does streak by my window now and then, scares the birds by flopping down on the birdbath (luckily it’s quite sturdy), and stops to chat with the neighborhood cats. (He chats. They mostly ignore. You know cats.) He brings me tons of smiles and laughs. Thanks for the loan. πŸ™‚

      Oooh kittens. Nyx but not Tibbers? You’re showing favoritism to of kitten grandchildren! I won’t tell, though. πŸ˜‰

      Also, now it’s TWO publishers with my ms. Up to six mos. standard wait time, though, as I’m sure you know, so… grrr. I’ll be waiting as long to hear back from them as I am for my foot to heal! πŸ˜›

      You’re the best. Thanks again for caring, my friend!!!

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  16. GLAD your doing better Betsy.. Hooray!!!!
    Those mismatch socks look like my feet every morning running out the door for work .. who has time to mismatch socks.
    Look at cute hubby serenading you..The question is did he give you pretzels for xmas or what was the dealio?

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  18. I bet that 90 year old would have tossed a double chest tap, peace sign right back at you. I love the imagination of you doing that.

    It was a relief to see you on both feet. Waiting for those baby steps….they get you places. ❀

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  19. CM! You’re alive! You’re around still! I’m so glad. πŸ™‚

    Yes, next time I’ll do something to show my solidarity with the old lady. It will be a hoot to see how she reacts.

    Baby steps. I look forward to the baby steps.

    Thank you for visiting me. ❀


  20. I laughed out loud at the image of you fist bumping your chest in solidarity with the wheelchair granny. You should’ve done it! Bet she would have been hip to the jive, as the kids say.

    As the kids said back when she was a kid, anyway. Or when her kids were kids. How old was she anyway? Nevermind, doesn’t matter…

    Sorry I missed this post! I don’t even know how that happened. Here I was, proud of myself for being all caught up on everybody, too.

    Keep dumping those photos!

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  21. Betsy, I feel for you and the long period of recovery. It’s good you can stand again, albeit only briefly and don’t try to do too much too soon. The left foot looks very snug and cosy – are you sure the right one isn’t getting a bit jealous?πŸ˜€ I bet you can’t wait to get back to class – until then take care and remember, you will get there!

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