My birthday last year was amazing. I got The Band to play, we had an epic snowball battle with fake snowballs, my neighbor made tattoos of my face…
I thought, why not repeat that again this year? If it ain’t broke, you know?
So, months in advance, I was happy to secure the band and the venue. This year was going to be even better because the band’s guitarist was graciously letting me be Birthdayzilla by requesting that certain songs make the set list, while others not so much. (“Stacy’s Mom” does not have it going on in my book.)
I also bought two of these:

Also, since I blew it last year and didn’t take advantage of my pull with the band by requesting “Smells Like Teen Spirit” for Neighbor and me to dance on a table to, I made certain it would make the cut this year. “Not a problem,” Guitarist had said with a smile.
All was looking golden, and I couldn’t be more excited.
Then this…

Could the band do a different date? No. I tried, they tried, we all tried to find another venue for that date, but with only a couple of weeks lead time, everything was, of course, booked.
My bartender friend told me, it’s not that I was put on “the wrong calendar,” it’s that the owner doesn’t USE a calendar. He tries to keep everything in his head. So when Bartender, on my behalf, asked about the date, again, months ago, the owner assured him that day was free.
I tried to stay hopeful, but it just wasn’t looking good.
Then…

Notice the date on this one? Three days notice.
I texted the guitarist, stiiiiiiilll clinging to a bit of hope. He responded that the bassist had been putting off a work trip because of the gig, but when it seemed pretty clear there wasn’t going to be a gig, he booked his trip.
All hope died.
I texted Bartender: “What’s really going on here?”
He responded: “The other dude got Covid.”
So, the brewery owner flat out lied to me to save face. When I relayed this story to a friend, he said, “Can you blame him?”
My answer was, “Yes, I can.” If he had been honest about his big score being canceled due to Covid, rather than making it seem like the other party was “being a pain,” I might have felt sorry for him. But, nope.
Also, he had to have gotten my number from Bartender in the first place. Did he not think I would get the real scoop from my inside man?
I’m thinking an unkind word that ends with “iot.” A part of me (a small part) was happy the band thing didn’t work out because I don’t feel like this guy, who canceled the band twice now and stiffed them once, Guitarist informed me, deserves our business. Hubby and I have decided we will never go there again.
So what’s your take, friends? Am I overreacting, or do I have a right to be ticked? Was this guy saving face excusable or is he just a punk? I welcome your feedback. And your condolences. You should probably start there. š
Condolences for sure. Such a bummer. And I think the not telling the truth is bad form. What is up with just not saying it straight?
But Iām not sure Iād stop going. Because of the bartender and band. They have to work for the owner and that probably is made better by having delightful people like you all come in!
And happy birthday!!! Wishing you all the best for the year to come!
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Thanks, Wynne. š The Band will never play there again. If I were to ask, it would just tick them off. They’ve been burned too many times. Also, though unrelated, the Bartender has since quit.
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Well then, that’s a whole different thing. I’d say you are standing with the people that count then!
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Thanks, Wynne. š
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I don’t understand why he wasn’t just honest with you. You have every right to be miffed!
On another note, what have you got against Stacy’s mom? She’s a total cougar. Mrrrowww!
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I’m not a teenage boy, so I can’t relate. It’s not even a great tune. Teenage Dirtbag is another on their set list, and that one I like, so… it must be the tune.
Thanks for agreeing with the miffability of the whole sitch.
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And you with a drink in hand… I guess that works. I suppose you with Sydney in hand would convey a different impression of who you are, so… fine!
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I’m glad you approve. Cheers!
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Yeah, I wouldn’t go there again. Service people who can’t seem to get customer service right ought to not have customers. There I said it.
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And you said it well, John. Thanks. I was not okay with that level of dishonesty. I’m sure he’s probably a nice person, but he should’ve been straight with me.
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I would not be okay with telling lies either
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I have dealt with those whose names that end with “idiot” …or something like that. I think that’s a good move, plus nicely telling him about how you like honesty… okay, I can’t actually think of a way to do that nicely.
Happy birthday!
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Thank you, Chel. I considered telling him how I felt about it all, but thought better of it and decided to just let it go.
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I can’t stand people lying to me so, no, I wouldn’t go there again. What business owner… especially of a venue that books events regularly… doesn’t keep a calendar? Liar, cheater, unorganized, and bad speller… a big nope from me. (I have a former work colleague who owns a large brewpub with her husband up near you… I sure hope it wasn’t them.)
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Oh my goodness. Now I’m curious. This place has the initials OBC. Not the same place, right? There are a thousand breweries in this area, so the chances are slim.
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Whew… not the same.
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Is hers BB, by chance?
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Did I get it right? I haven’t been there, but it was one of the places we tried to get the band. From what I heard, it sounded like she was trying hard to make it work despite her other booking.
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Yep, assuming BB is the same BB. I didn’t know the woman well and I never met her husband but I know they were focused on creating a really nice space. We ate there once and enjoyed the food.
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I still have to go there. It’s on my list. It’s a unique name! š
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Birthday bummer ā¹ļø
It seems like honesty right up front would have worked best. Also, why couldn’t the owner just say “I” messed up, it’s my fault. Etc. Why the stories and blaming others? That’s where I would be upset…. Why would you want to go back to a place that makes you unhappy?
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I’ve had so much fun every time I’ve gone there, but the owner… I’m certain the band would never agree to play there again. They’d just be annoyed if I even asked. Bartender has since quit, and he was part of what had made it fun in the past, so my motivation to return is pretty much nil, at this point.
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Then problem solved regarding that ‘place’. Though last years bday was pretty epic. On to better things I say!
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Aiy-aiy, Captain! š
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Such a bummer! Itās so disappointing when you have something fun planned and it ends up a no go through no fault of your own. Thatās wack that he lied about the cancellation. We would use meaner words for himā¦..just sayin!
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Very likely, at the time, Bijoux, I said some less kind names for him in my head. This is a family-friendly blog, however, so, you know. š Thank you for commiserating with me though!!!
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sorry your excitement was quashed, and you were lied to. with the band and bartender refusing to work there again, I’m saying find a new place with reliable people. boo!
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It would be nice to find a new place that was as low key as this one. We were allowed to bring our own food in, which I greatly appreciated and have yet to find elsewhere.
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Definitely condolences. And I’d be ticked, too. You expect a reputable business to be up front about situations. And COVID aside, just because your party wasn’t as large as the other one, doesn’t mean it wasn’t as important to you. Very shoddy business dealings on their part!
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Agreed! Thank you, Mae!
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Oh, no! I hope you get to have a rockin’ birthday party anyway. Alex just got an electric guitar–and he loves Nirvana–maybe I’ll send a video?
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Yeeeeessssss!!!!! You are in the heartland of my musical genre of choice. Grunge it up over there! š
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Sorry, pooh. I hope next year there’s another band and another venue. Hey, why not a destination party? Follow the band!
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Maybe I’ll get lucky and discover they’re already playing somewhere that night. I’ll go where they go.
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Great minds think alike!
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Yep! I was bummed when I learned they’d just played somewhere local, but I hadn’t gotten word about it first.
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Man, he deserves a negative Yelp review for sure. Iām sorry this happened, Betsy. I hope you were still able to enjoy your birthday despite the disappointment. Donald says, āHappy birthday!ā š¦
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Awwww. A happy birthday from Donald makes it the best birthday ever. š š Thank you, Jill.
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omg nononono that’s just WRONG. You don’t have a calendar in your head like that when you have a business. That’s SO unprofessional. And so is lying. I HATE lying in any form. So they do not deserve your money. But late happy birthday!
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Agreed, Bella. Thanks for getting irritated with me. š And thanks for the happy birthday wishes!!
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You have every right to be ticked. It is bad business to run things that way. I sure hope your birthday panned out ok. I cannot wait for part too of this post!
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Heh heh. Thanks. I’m sure you’d like to see what my family gave me for the big day, particularly Hubby. š
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Well, shucks. I guess I do want to know if it was a good day or not, despite the major set backs.
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Stay tuned!
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Agree with you 100%!
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Thanks, Diane. š
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Who keeps a calendar in their head when it’s essential to their business? I’m sure another birthday someone has been similarly burned before, yet the owner didn’t learn from the experience (assuming the truth is anywhere nearby this story). Bad sign. Best to seek another venue/entertainment worth repeating in a year.
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That does seem to be the writing on the wall, Dave. At least I have the fond memories of when everything went well. (until this year. ;/ ) Thanks, Dave.
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Of course you have a right to be ticked! The guy messed up everything for your special day and lied about it. Here’s hoping your rescheduled party will be a blast.
On the bright side, at least you’re not physically wounded.
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True on both counts, Mike.
Not wounded, but my legs were so sore a couple days ago, I was walking a little funny. But that’s a good sore. š
We’re in the final capybara count-down! Doot-doo-doot-doooo. (Hear the song in your mind.)
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Shoot! None of the words that came to MY mind first ended in ‘iot’. What’s with that?
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Haha. I was being kind. You were being honest. š
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Punk. Lying is something that I may forgive, but never forget. Not in a vindictive way, of course. Just in a “once fooled twice shy” way.
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For reals. The Band, for sure, is way over this place. As am I.
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Well, that just does suck all the way around and you have every reason to be ticked off about that. If I owned a bar, I’d never do that to you.
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Thank you, Andrew. Please feel free to move here and open a bar. Well, build the bar first. Then open it. š
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I’ll start planning right now … š
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Excellent! Be sure to add space for a stage, not only for the band, but also so we can use it as the set for our talk show.
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I’m going to write that down … talk show studio …
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Perfect.
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So sorry that the plans for your birthday party did not go as planned š¦
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Thank you, Rosaliene. I was sad. Comfort from the blog world helps! š
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Of course you have the right to be bummed. Sorry you had to go through this
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Thanks, LA. Some people, ya know?
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Oh that’s so disappointing, Betsy. You have the right to be annoyed. Definitely not handled well.
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Thanks, BCM.
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Yes, I’m on your side. First of all, BE ORGANIZED and don’t blame other ppl for your disorganization! And you’re operating a business for crying out loud, be honest! He lost a great customer!!! Also, hope you have a wonderful birthday celebration, Betsy!!!! š
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He definitely lost a good customer. I’ve organized groups there several times. What a punk. Thanks, BB!
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The convenient covid excuse, like his dog ate his homework. Keep going and don’t look back. He should have been honest.
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Thank you. I will. š
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So many things wrong here, from not being proper organised with his own business, to lying, to giving you very little notice timeāyou have every right to be pissed.
When’s your birthday though? Last year’s post was September 14. Did I miss it? Anyway, happy belated birthday!
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You missed it, and we can no longer be friends.
Just kidding. It was the 10th, which means I’m WAY overdue to post “My Birthday, Part 2: What Did Happen.”
Thanks, friend!
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Oh, so sorry it didn’t work out! I’d be miffed too, Betsy. I’m hoping something happened in part 2 that made up for the big disappointment. Looking forward to the reveal!
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Thanks, Peach. Nothing as exciting as what I had planned, but… still a decent day. I’ll get on that post! š
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Happy Birthday!
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Thank you! š
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You are not overreacting. Honesty – always honesty.
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Agreed, Barb!
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