This post has been a long time in coming. I’ve had so many thoughts in my brain that have ended with, “I should totally blog about that.” I’m sure many of you have felt the same. Where would we be without our blogging outlet, am I right? Remember life without cell phones? Total insanity of the Dark Ages.
Anyway, on to the kindness!
People are totally nice to pregnant women, as well they should be. Once when I was preggers, I was at the grocery store attempting to unload my cart onto the conveyor belt while also holding a fussy child. Another mom spotted me and immediately came over to quickly unload the cart for me, saying, “I remember being in this stage of life. Please let me help you.” She wasn’t even pausing to get an “okay” from me. She sort of seemed like she was in a hurry, but wouldn’t have taken no for an answer, even if I had (stupidly) told her not to bother. She quickly got the job done, wished me the best of luck and was gone practically before I could offer my thanks. Super cool lady.
Super cool old man story:
I was ready to check out at the grocery store when I had two youngins at this point and another obviously on the way. Then the worst happened: I didn’t have any money with me! Everything had been rung up by the time I realized it. There were, OF COURSE, several people in line behind me, as I, red-faced, apologized profusely to the cashier, realizing that everything would have to be taken back off the register and then returned to the shelves. How humiliating! Then the super sweet white-haired gentleman behind me with ONE THING to buy!! said he would pick up my tab. It came to $37, if I’m remembering correctly, and his item was only $6. Not a mega-amount, but still, right?! I was so grateful I hugged him and got a little teary-eyed (kind of like right now, years later, as I type this.)
And now, possibly the most amazing tale of all: the kind teenage boy story!
Yes, you guessed it, I was at the grocery store. (Do I do anything besides shop for groceries? Oh, yes, of course: I also do laundry!) Anyway, in this story I was also very pregnant with number three, with numbers 1 and 2 in tow, when I was unloading my groceries into the trunk of the car. As I did so, I looked around for the cart return and happened to glance at a parked
car nearby and see a teenaged couple sitting in it, watching me. As I finished up, the boy was suddenly next me, wearing one of those t-shirts with the bow tie sewn into the pattern of the shirt, which I at first thought was a novel idea, but now when I see them just get annoyed. He asked if he could return the cart for me. I was suspicious. “Do you want money or something?” He said, “No, I just saw that you’re pregnant and have kids and thought I could help you out.” I’m sure I was visibly taken aback. I was also a little embarrassed. “Oh, sure. That would be great. Thank you,” I responded. And off he went with my cart to the cart return before going back to his car. His girlfriend may have put him up to it, but nevertheless, an actual teenage gentleman! I don’t come across those often.
On another note, are there any other moms out there who feel an innate connection with each other that you just want to smile and give a knowing nod when you see each other on the street? I feel that way often when I see moms of little kids while I’m out with mine, or when I see a mom who’s pregnant and has a little child with her. Yet why does it seem I’m the only one around here who feels this way? (Okay, aside from the woman in Story 1.) I try to make eye contact so I can give a commisserating look or something that conveys “Mom Power!” or “We’re on the same team!” but women just ignore me! What gives? I start singing that theme from Highschool Musical in my head, (“We’re all in this to-gether.” Don’t ask me how I know that.) but they’re off on some other plane. Okay, maybe they’re just thinking, “I did remember to bring money with me this time, right?”
Please, dear readers, share your stories of pregnant kindness and/or your experiences of fellow mommies’ cold-shoulders, or otherwise. I’d love to hear them!